Last Updated on April 15, 2021
2. Deep Marks for the Child’s Life? Certainly!
When you embarrass your child in public, you risk that this event will remain etched in her memory forever. That is only natural because the child does not have adults’ mental health to interpret this public reprimand as an education or correction act. On the contrary, the child will feel humiliated, embarrassed, misunderstood, and diminished in front of everyone, causing profound and irreparable marks on his personality. How to raise a child? There is no universal recipe that you should follow or a well-kept secret that you have to discover. The most important thing is putting yourself in your child’s shoes and imagine what she may be feeling – because, probably, you remember having gone through similar situations – and not let it take unnecessary proportions.
3. Loss of trust between Father and Son
Everyone makes mistakes in life and children are no exception. It is quite understandable that children make mistakes because they are acquiring the first experiences of life and, many times, they do not know how to distinguish right from wrong. And at these times, it is necessary to feel the affection and unconditional love of your parents to support and trust them in all situations. However, when you as a parent constantly and regularly criticize your child’s actions and behaviors – especially in a public way – you risk losing that special bond of friendship and trust that linked you to her. The child thinks that she has bad parents and cannot turn to them in future situations for support or guidance. Indeed, a father does not need to be his son’s best friend because the important thing is that he be a father above all else. However, authoritarian paternity instead of friendly paternity always has negative long-term consequences and endangers the relationship between parents and children.
4. A High Price to Pay
In addition to the loss of trust in the relationship between father and son, the public reprimand of your child’s behavior or actions will cause him to start hiding things, becoming rebellious, and even responding or having more aggressive behaviors. And it can be quite disturbing and ruin family harmony completely. How not to scold your kid? You should try not to discharge your daily work or other frustrations in the wrongest actions or behaviors your child may have had. She is a child or a teenager and, although it is never good to make mistakes, this is the best time to do so. Try not to react in the heat of the discussion because this is too high to pay, leading to unnecessary regrets. There are times when parents should say a few more harsh words to their children, and sometimes it costs them more than their children. But always be careful not to do it publicly (prefer to do it at home, for example) because this is an overreaction that will blacken you as an example to follow and as a father.
