How To Stop Arguing With Your Teenager

Last Updated on April 3, 2021

© bretlegg Arguments among family are completely normal, but that shouldn’t be the norm. If you are going through the arguing phase with your teenage kid, we empathize. But the truth is you should actively refuse to take part in their arguments, to begin with. And while there is no sacred book that teaches you how to talk to kids or how to get your kids to listen, there are some steps you can take as a parent to keep the communication healthy between you. You should treat your kids with dignity and respect, but also avoid enabling bad behavior. Parenting is a challenge so let’s get to it. Keep in mind that this guide is for parents who engage in frequent arguments with their children. Arguing every once in a while is perfectly normal and healthy, and there is no reason for concern.

1. Try to understand what triggers you

Dealing with an angry teenager can be hard, but as a rational adult who has been in their shoes, you should be able to remain calm and avoid unnecessary disagreements. Finding out what pushes your buttons is the best way to react differently whenever those triggers come to the surface. Is there a certain topic that annoys you? Or is there a time during the day when you feel more stressed and unable to manage your emotions? Whatever it is, being aware of the things that trigger your anger is the only way to plan around them. If you can’t cope with your triggers, you will find yourself in an endless loop of arguments that won’t lead anywhere. Work through your anger. Constant arguments can deteriorate your relationship with your children, and no parent wants that.

2. Figure out if there is any pattern

If you are constantly arguing with your kid, something might be wrong with how you two communicate. Take a step back and remember those arguments. How do they take place? What happens just before the moment you start screaming at each other? And what leads to that argument? Are there any triggers on your end? Are there any triggers on your kid’s end? Realizing what is causing you to argue so much can help you work around it. You will detect the pattern as soon as it starts and stop yourself from creating a conflict.